On the Maryland Crab Cake Tour at Greenmount Station in Hampstead, Karen Falkler discusses the importance of mental and physical wellness for leaders. A former physical therapist, she now focuses on advisory leadership, emphasizing the inter-connectedness of physical, mental, communication, and time (PMCT) wellness. She also highlights the impact of the pandemic on mental health and the need for leaders to prioritize their well-being.
Nestor Aparicio and Karen Falkler discuss the importance of mental and physical wellness for leaders. Karen, a former physical therapist, now focuses on advisory leadership, emphasizing the interconnectedness of physical, mental, communication, and time (PMCT) wellness. She highlights the impact of the pandemic on mental health and the need for leaders to prioritize their well-being. Nestor shares his personal journey of weight loss and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. They also discuss the significance of setting goals, prioritizing tasks, and finding a sense of purpose (or “why”) to drive personal and professional success.
SUMMARY KEYWORDS
mental health, physical wellness, leadership coaching, pandemic impact, personal narratives, physical wellness, mental wellness, communication skills, time management, physical therapy, advisory leadership, networking events, personal growth, wellness change, executive coaching
SPEAKERS
Karen Falkler, Nestor Aparicio
Nestor Aparicio 00:00
Welcome home. We are W N, S T, Dallas for Baltimore, Baltimore, positive. We are positively no longer in the studio. We are here. This is sort of a studio away from Studio. This is green mount station. We’re up here in Hampstead, Maryland, Carroll County. For the holidays. One of my favorite things to do is just see how the main street here has the Christmas spirit and natives of Carroll County and residents of Carroll I’ve been trying to get Cara Fauci out here for a long time, so it’s gonna be a great conversation. It’s all part of the Maryland crab cake tour. It’s all brought to you by our friends at the Maryland lottery. I have Raven scratch offs to give away. This is number 10. Your perfect 10, like Bo Derek. There you go. You get number 10. It’s also brought to you by our friends at Jiffy Lube, multi care. Luke has been running around chasing the Ravens. I was gonna drag him at her. This is actually on the Luke lives in York, Pennsylvania, so like going to Owings Mills and back. He said, I go right through Hampstead all the time. But he is at practice today. We are practicing eating turkey, pumpkin pie, apple pie. I’m gonna do my little green bean casserole. But in the meantime, it is a crab cake tour. I have the this is the fried crab cake at Green mount station. I ate the broad one. It’s gone, and I’m gonna sprinkle the lemon lemon on that. But Karen Faulkner has been a friend of mine for a number of years. She is a local networking Queen for all things advisory leadership, but more than that, and I didn’t know this still, I believe blew my back at Ocean City two summers ago. You know, background in PT, man, I didn’t know under, you know, and I didn’t know you were from Carroll County. I just know you live in Hampstead, and I’m like, Well, the next time I come back to green mount station, I’m inviting you and your dance cards kind of full with this advisory leadership thing you do. It took me about a year and a half to get you out. So I’m looking forward to this. How are you?
Karen Falkler 01:45
I am super Terrific. Thank you so much for having me on Well, I see you at networking
Nestor Aparicio 01:49
events, and maybe for the folks out there that are sports people or they don’t get out of bed at the buck crack at dawn and run out to accelerant like we did last week, or the connects event, lot of afternoon, Happy Hour networking. I met you in that space. I met a lot of people in that space. I mean, Bill Cole from cole roof and one of our great sponsors, according energy, Joe Enoch, who now works for him. When Enoch office was out, we should do these events all the time to bring local business together, kind of sort of what the crab cake tour does, right? So you are you changed your career dramatically from PT and solving those problems to dealing with quite frankly frenetic, crazy CEO people like me and trying to calm me down and make me better at what I do, right? Yeah. Have I done a decent job explaining what you do? Oh, I’m
Karen Falkler 02:39
sure. Yeah, you’ve done a great job. Fantastic. What
Nestor Aparicio 02:42
do you do? Karen Fauci,
Karen Falkler 02:43
oh gosh, well, I take people’s pain away, is what I really try to do.
Nestor Aparicio 02:47
That was the PT part of this, yeah, well, it’s
Karen Falkler 02:50
the life part of it, really. Because, you know, when I first off, I never thought that I would be a business owner, but I saw this kind of unmistakable need for change, and this kind of crazy path that I have been on in my life led me to this work that I now get to do and I love so much. So I don’t even do
Nestor Aparicio 03:09
the math on this, and I haven’t asked you, and you and I are, like, we’re like, friends in the real world. So she’s having a hard time, like, dealing with the nasty Nestor part of this. Your thing happened during COVID? Am I right or wrong? I mean, like, I wonder how many people in the coming years, my hair happened during COVID. So people say, Hey, you got long hair? Yeah, well, I had short hair before COVID. That gets us the one physical change with me, Baltimore, positive happened before COVID, but really blossomed not as a political ideology, but more as, like, the extension of my radio thing. But I think a lot of people probably changed lives, careers, vocations on the way up here. I’m doing Music Week this week, when I got in the car to come up to Green Mountain station, and Slim Jim Phantom was on the air, and I’m running this crazy music classic thing. It’s a lot of these old interviews from the 80s and 90s. My voice was squeaking. It wasn’t meant for radio. Slim Jim came on, and I felt like, well, that was a year or two ago. He was a drummer from the stray cats, and he’s a big stratomatic baseball player, and I’m in the conversation coming up past Hunt Valley, shawan Road, the way I come up to Green Mountain. And I realized, Oh, my God, we’re talking like there was a plague going on. You know what I mean? Like, the conversation is all about being locked down as a musician, you couldn’t tour playing dice game baseball because there was no baseball in the summer 2020 so that conversation, now four and a half years old, feels like it was a minute ago. And it feels like, oh, now I’m with you, and you’re like, Oh, my business started in 2021 and I’m like, How many people do you meet, or where you are, which is, you know, changed lives in the middle of the plague, right?
Karen Falkler 04:51
Well, I mean, we all kind of have our own unique journeys and stories. But I mean, essentially, yeah, I did see and kind of start my business as. Pseudo like effect of the pandemic. So after college, I was in the corporate world for a few years. Then I went back, and I worked in PT for like, 10 years, and I specialized in orthopedics and neurological rehab Westminster area, correct? Yeah, in and around this area, you know. And then I came back to the corporate world when I realized I was going to get a divorce, and I was consulting all over the US, and in every room that I went to, every leader that I talked to, they had basically one of four kinds of pain. And so I was like, well, our physical wellness has so much to do with how and where we live in age. And during the pandemic, when I saw this mass casualty, you know, I wasn’t working in PT at the time because it was outpatient, and I was doing like, some business development stuff. So I learned how to sew masks and do things, and I donated a bunch of masks to the hospitals. And I was learning new things, and just kind of looking at the rest of my life, and I was like, man, like how we sit and stand has a profound impact on how and where we live and age. And I couldn’t fix it in PT, you know, because they would come in, they would get better, then they would go back to work. And then when I came back to the corporate world, and I was looking around, I was like, Oh my gosh, wow. Like, if we can help people live and feel better, and we start at the top, like we can really not only positively impact the leaders, but the people that are looking up to them and learning from them, and then also the families. And in this way, we can genuinely create this positive multi generational impact and influence in lives that reduces risk, you know, saves lives, saves money, you know, keeps people at work and helps them be the best version of themselves. And so really,
Nestor Aparicio 06:37
I work on this every day. You know this, right? You know we’re but the PT part of you helping people and saying, physically, I had I fell apart during the plague. I mean, you know this everybody, there’s a listener, knows my back was a mess. I think it was from sitting too much during the plague. It was I got a stand desk thanks to David Knoll from moi. You know, I got this desk now that has helped me. My friends at Planet Fitness. I do a lot of yoga, but I think during the plague, the the amount of time we had was so unique, and I want to say forgettable to some degree, like I’m in the car listening to Slim Jim phantom on like, yeah, that plague. What did it last a week or two? No, it was like a year and a half man, you know, and I did PT in the middle of the plague. So my back really fell apart in October of 21 three years ago, and I I did PT with a young lady in my building for 10 weeks from October, November, December and January. To this day, I don’t know what she looks like. I never saw her without a mask. She never saw me without a mask. I saw her three days a week for two and a half months, and I still to this day, never saw her face. You know, weird. That’s weird. That is really that nothing’s normal about anything that happened in 2020 2021, and I find this with young people, people that are from 20 to 25 that went through high school, college, didn’t graduate, on the stage, lost their prom, whatever that thing is. I think those people are gonna have a whole different trajectory in life from having dealing with it. I was 50 years old when I dealt with and I didn’t understand it, you know? I mean,
Karen Falkler 08:29
because we stopped learning how to truly connect with people, and people went into this state of fear and flight or fight, and it’s
Nestor Aparicio 08:37
why I didn’t let you zoom onto the show. I’m like, you gotta come sit next to me, have a proper crab cake. Yeah, yeah,
Karen Falkler 08:42
it is a good crab cake. But that’s really just like, that’s it is like we stopped connecting with each other, and you know, during the pandemic that social isolation was crippling and debilitating for people, and I think that we’re still trying to learn how to do that again. And that’s like, part of why I like talk about the pmct relationship. Because, come on,
Nestor Aparicio 09:02
I didn’t go to that kind of college. PP, what? So
Karen Falkler 09:06
it’s this pmct relationship, my MCT,
Nestor Aparicio 09:09
parent, mother, child, teacher. So
Karen Falkler 09:14
really close. So when I started this business again, it is like we’re gonna start with physical wellness, but your physical wellness effects infects your mental wellness, and your mental affects your physical these go kind of hand in hand. And like, you know, if you’ve ever had pain, it takes up a massive amount of rent in your brain
Nestor Aparicio 09:30
that so as thing that I had, yeah, it’s a fight or flight, it made you want to cry. Well, it may, it made me sad, yeah, like it was a sadness thing down in there. Well,
Karen Falkler 09:41
even think, like when you have pain or you’re not physically strong, like as a as a creature, as an evolved creature, like you’re at more risk out in the world, and you’re thinking of things you can’t do, yes, exactly, and it can lead to failure to thrive and all these other things, instead of just being strong. But like so your physical wellness affects the mental it affects your autonomic nervous system, how your breathing. Thing, blood pressure, heart rate, all of that stuff. And then these things also impact, like your ability to see things clearly, how well you’re going to sleep, how well you’re going to recover, the levels of inflammation that you have. And those two things, your physical wellness and mental wellness, affect how you communicate and connect. They affect your personal narratives. They affect how you communicate with people at work, how you communicate with your family and the people that you have at home. And those three things like your physical wellness, your mental wellness and your communication relationships, they affect how you experience time in the present, as well as the actual rest of your life, how much energy you have, as well as again, like how long you’re able to physically get up, get out and go connect with the people that you love and the things that you love, and that was really, during the pandemic, what we saw was this tremendous failure to thrive. Because people were isolated, people were not feeling well, they weren’t feeling strong. They were failure
Nestor Aparicio 10:52
to thrive. There was no one that could thrive in that environment. Was nothing was normal in that environment, really. I mean, I and I think coming out of it, the fact that you identified this, so you’re working mainly with CEOs or with whole companies, and I’m familiar with the space and peer advisories and people getting together and all of that. But I would think the hardest part of the CEO thing, and I didn’t have to go through this, and people ask me about my wife getting sick, and I had employees then, and the second time my wife got sick, I didn’t have employees. I can’t imagine having 14 employees in $1.4 million payroll during the pandemic. You know, I had enough with PPP, with banks just trying to keep myself whole, my wife whole, the people I knew, my partners, businesses trying to get people curbside and crab cakes up here at Green Mountain station, like, by the way, we’re doing the show to meet cheese on the 17th of December. I had lunch in there last week, and I was telling people that had never been there about the plague there. I said, I distinctly remember during the early part of the plague, no vaccine, late spring, early summer, everything shut down, everybody’s curbside. And I remember walking over to meet you some other side of the city, and it’s my place, like my Fauci, they don’t have a crab cake. And we’re doing a crab cake tour there, because that’s how much I love a me cheese. And so we’re doing it for Christmas, and we’re gonna do the Pawnee Rotunda. It’s gonna be fine. We’ll get by with that crab meat there that day. But I remember going in there, and I had a mask. They had mask was dark. They had the bags at the front because all the lights were off, right at a meat cheese. And I went in there, and I remember like, getting sobby thinking, if you don’t make it, nobody’s gonna make it. And if you don’t make it, I’m not gonna have these meatballs anymore, and the memories and all I have my wedding part, and I’m like, you’ve gotta survive this. You’ve got a me. Cheese has to make this through so does green. So we all had to do that. And I think those emotions and those thoughts that take yourself back, I try not to think about this, like my wife’s illness. I try not to think about the 155 nights at night. It’s just not a good emotion, but I think it’s changed so much of how we behave. The last couple, three, four years changed your whole life, right? I mean,
Karen Falkler 13:11
absolutely. I mean, like, I never thought that I would be here go through some of the things. But that’s the thing about life, is we don’t know what’s coming, but what we do know and are guaranteed is that the way that we feel in our skin and our attitude has everything to do with what happens in those moments. You know, one of the reasons that I do work primarily with the leaders is because, again, they’re going to set the tone, and if they can’t physically show up for work, it has a pretty profound influence on everything else that happens within the organization. So, you know, growing up, my parents were nurses. I grew up in and around medicine, and my mom was an ER nurse, and every day she was like, always say, I love you. You just never know. You just never know. And so it’s like, you know, some of the core tenets of my work are, hey, if it’s not a matter of life and death, let’s not make it one. But if it is, by all means, let us treat it with the respect that it deserves. And so it’s like, you know, we can’t know what is coming, but like, we can help to support each other, we can help to support the businesses and the people that we love, and we can take care of ourselves so that we can show up as the best version of ourselves for them. Well,
Nestor Aparicio 14:16
mental health is something that, you know, I think we’ve all talked about a lot more openly in recent years. You talk about your parents being in physical wellness nursing care. I even think about this. When my wife got cancer, like, you know, we’re in the hospital, they were there to, like, give her the drugs and give her the this and give her but like, the whole like, the minute they cleaned her up and threw her out, she was on her own trying to have to figure out the mental health side of her illness, her survival, all of that. And I think to myself, it’s unconscionable that she wasn’t given psychological help and given that sort of mental. Health, I don’t know that we’ve taken it seriously. We’re starting to, in this country, starting to and we’ll see where the next four years goes with the guy leading the country. But starting to talk about mental health is something that when your parents went to school for nursing, it was just sort of like, just keep your head on, be, be, don’t cry, don’t have any emotions. If you’re a doctor or nurse, you can’t have any emotions or whatever. Emotions are everywhere, right? And they’re flowing. And I think the mental health part of being a leader. And I think back to I in here, you said you never wanted to own it. I never wanted to own a business. If you get anything out of that crazy documentary, I just was a dude that loved sports, it was going to be a writer and fell into owning a business, the mental health part of that, I wasn’t prepared to do that at 3035 you know, I look back on it now, I have former employees that say nasty things sometimes in and I’m like, it was 20 years ago, and nobody handed me a handbook on that anymore. They handed me a handbook on how to be a parent, how to be a husband, how to be business owner, how to be a good person, but the mental health part, when people approach you with roughness, gruffness, you don’t get treated the right way. There’s always I’m old enough now to know there’s something else going on there. Now I never until I was 40, I don’t think it even occurred to me, but the mental health part is something just mentioning, and my head’s not right, that was the ultimate side, like a football game, to tap out of a game to say, I got hit in the head. You just weren’t allowed to do that. It’s macho, it’s pride. It’s not being in control. But I’m sure in your line of work last couple years, the mental health is probably where it starts with any conversation, how you feeling today? Did you get enough rest? You drinking enough water? You eating the right things? Did you get some extra because it starts with all of that, right? Well, yeah. I
Karen Falkler 16:50
mean, it’s like the chicken or the egg. Your mental health, physical health, you know, which one goes for a second? Like, I actually started my business, in large part to have very real conversations about mental health and wellness, but proactively, because it was like, Well, what are some of the things? You know, I’d read an article about suicide, you know, suicide in and around the construction industry, and so I’ve always been a present and future like, where are we going? How can I help this? Like, even when I was a clinician, I didn’t care as much about what the diagnosis was as All right, what do we need you to be able to do to survive and get out and do what you want to do again? So with mental health, like I do look at physical health and in as one of the leading indicators for how our mindset is. Well, my
Nestor Aparicio 17:29
back hurt, my mind wasn’t right, yeah, but not only that, but like, think
Karen Falkler 17:33
about it. Like your mental health, how you show up, the the personal narratives that you have, like, you know, for mental health, like your physical wellness, your financial wellness, your relationships around you, like all of these things are a lot of times leading indicators for things like suicide. You know financial hardship, pain, addiction, disease. You know helplessness, helplessness, these things you know when you don’t feel like you have control or a way out, you know, or you don’t have the ability to communicate and connect, then those can lead to this downward mental health spiral. And so there too. It’s like, okay, well, hey, like, physically, what can we do to help you better regulate your autonomic nervous system? Physically, what can we do to help enhance your sleep? Because sleep is also a huge contributor to how our mind heals and works, and, you know, removes inflammation. But two like our physical wellness and the things that we put in us, in terms of our even our digestion and our absorption of our nutrients, they have a pretty profound influence on the chemical regulation in our brain. I eat
Nestor Aparicio 18:37
broccoli. Go on, I had broccoli on the plate. I
Karen Falkler 18:41
did see some greens on there, which is good, but again, like that. Goes back to the pmct relationship,
Nestor Aparicio 18:47
and why? Pm pm, pmct,
Karen Falkler 18:50
so physical, mental, communication and time. Pmct, it’s like, so I started to
Nestor Aparicio 18:56
the T is time, yeah, and silly rosemary. Oh, no, sorry, yeah. Thanksgiving joke there. Oh, I
Karen Falkler 19:01
do, like some time that’s good. I like to grow the arms, but yeah, like, they’re all interrelated. And so it’s like, Yes, I do this leadership coaching, but it incorporates these things, these four pillars of wellness. Because, again, like, without that stuff as a consideration, like, we’re really kind of throwing money and supported something that’s, you know, not gonna be the best that it can be energetically or life wise.
Nestor Aparicio 19:24
Kara Fauci was our guest. She’s Faulkner advisory. She’s a leadership counselor, not she’s not my priest or my rabbi, but she has been known to take phone calls from me and dealing with my idiosyncrasies. Here we’re green mount station, so I brought you my friends at the Maryland lottery. Ever even scratch offs to give away? To give away? I gave her number 10 because she’s perfect 10. I’m gonna be number 11, like Louie Aparicio, so I’m gonna have that like, we’re gonna give a bunch of these away. We’re gonna be doing the Maryland crab cake tour in a bunch of places, where Coco’s on the fourth. We’re at Gertrude at the BMA on the fifth, with my cousin John shields, as well as Dan Rodricks. Also gonna be to meet she’s on the set. 17th, we’re gonna be at Faith leaves on the 12th, and we’re CASAS on the 18th. I just did that out of order. It’s all brought to you by the Maryland lottery, our friends at Jiffy Lube MultiCare. You decide to not be. PT, maybe this is a little bit of just back and forth on changing careers, right? Yeah, I’ve never changed careers, and I was with one of my drinking buddies, my buddy, Chad weaseling, who’s going to come in and be one of our crab cake tour guests here. He’s an NFL agent, and we were together after the child’s play show a couple weeks ago. We’re in Highland town, late at night, and I was dropping him off after the show, and we got he had one of these, you know, dude conversations, because we’re kind of the same age. You know, he’s an eight, and he’s his own agency, small he has Josh Jacobs from the Green Bay Packers, one of his guys. And we were just talking about life and getting older, and what we’re doing, just having guy talk, locker room talk. And I said to him, I’m like, Well, what the hell else would you do? I mean, what would I do? All I ever was was nasty Nestor and sports guy and taking calls. And man, the minute I stopped taking phone calls, it was heresy. The minute you try to change anything, my hair got long. Oh, cut your hair. You know you’re talking to a female. Talk to him and talk sports. Take my phone call. Be a sports guy. You can’t just talk about leadership. Your sports radio station, stick to sports. Get back. You don’t know any about politics. I deal with all that, right? So that challenge of making that sort of a move, but like, in your Word, you, where did this happen? Like, I’m trying to understand, like, if I were to really quit all of this and just teach yoga, right? Like, which I’d be really good at that. I think, I don’t think it would fulfill me, you know, to just teach yoga. I think it’d be great, yeah. And I think it had fun if I had an unlimited amount of money. I just opened a little studio in Malaya. I moved to Hawaii, and whoever comes by comes by. I need to make money, but I gotta, like, feed my family, and this is what I do, right? Yeah, so you saw my documentary, and I’ll let you go through your notes, because you took notes on me. They still think you’re trying to make me a client. I don’t know why, but making that move, I can tell you, when I built Baltimore positive, I was in 2018 I ran into Tony Robbins. He invited me to date with destiny. I didn’t have enough money to go. Was $10,000 a week, right? So he invited us as guests. And I was in this park in West Palm Beach, Florida, doing mantras, doing doing my own best version of myself. That’s your thing. Best version of myself. That’s that’s in the script, right? Best version yourself. I was walking around thinking, how can I serve people better with little W, N, S T, this little am radio station and this radio guy nobody’s ever listened to. No one listens. Everyone hears, right? So how can I change what I’m doing? Because taking phone calls from people about sports. Not only is it not joyful for me, it’s not informative for my audience, it’s not good for sponsors. There’s I did it for 20 years. That doesn’t mean I need to keep doing it right. So I need to change things. And I decided on that night walking around this park that had a sign that alligators were present that I didn’t see because we did it in the dark. Because if I had seen the sign, I might not have walked in the park, then the idea never would have come. But I came up with this idea to do Baltimore positive. So I came up with that idea in December of eight, six years ago, next week, first week of December. So it’d be six years ago that I came up with it, and I can tell you that it was a week of up all night in a cold room with Tony Robbins, trying to discover my purpose and what I had brought with nasty Nestor from all of those years. What am I gonna do with this that’s not taking phone calls in an AM? So that was my metamorphosis to Baltimore positive. The documentary is part of the coming out party and the music class. Like, I’m always trying to do something different, yeah, but I didn’t think, like, I’m gonna drop this dead on and go do that, like, work for you and be a leadership counselor or whatever. Like, I really want to hear that that moment, because I think it’s that moment of decision. Tony Robbins, were you ready? It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Yeah, that’s pretty good. Tony Robbins, wasn’t
Karen Falkler 24:32
I think it was very good. Tony Robbins, yes. So, I mean, it was, you know, this journey, like my undergrads in sports psychology, I came out, I worked in the corporate world, was in PT, came back to the corporate world. I had no idea what I was gonna do. You know, when I was finishing up my contract with this other company, they were amazing. They were wonderful in a million Zane ways. But there I could
Nestor Aparicio 24:53
have stayed in PT. Could have, but I you just felt like you were gonna make it. You’re in your 30s at the time, right? Yeah, it was in
Karen Falkler 24:59
my late. 30s, and so there was, like, out at the reservoir down the road, knees on the ground, hands in the air. Jesus, take the wheel. Oh, that’s
Nestor Aparicio 25:05
some scary shit. I’m just saying, I mean, like, literally, it would be some scary thing for me right now. Yeah, to say I’m really quitting this and I’m gonna do whatever I’m excited about at that moment, it would be exciting, but it is really scary, but
Karen Falkler 25:21
I saw the need. I was like, my god, like, there are so many leadership people, but like this, physical wellness as a part of that is, is what needs to happen. And I want to make massive, systemic wellness change that starts at leadership, one leader, one room at a time, and I don’t know how I’m going to do it. I’m not. I don’t know where I’m gonna do it. And so I started this little business with a barred laptop, thrift store, clothes, bulk trash, furniture while going through a divorce. No idea how I was gonna do it, you know, as little 800 square foot condo with two little girls, like, amazing. They were sleeping in the living room on a trundle bed, you know. And I was just in my office, like, let’s do some coaching today, you know. And like, I started year one was coaching clients, you know. Last year I added some, you know, 20 corporate clients. And I got to speak at the Vatican about the pmct relationship, which was incredible. I got to see the Pope’s private garden. The real Vatican, the real Vatican. Okay, all right, yeah, yeah. And, you know, it has been for as hard and as scary as this journey has been, like it has been so incredibly beautiful and rewarding. And it’s just like, we never would have met me. Yeah, I never. And
Nestor Aparicio 26:30
all the other people, all the other goons, we hang out with Mako and all these networking people we know, you know, I didn’t
Karen Falkler 26:37
know anybody in Baltimore, you know, like, I was treating out at a small clinic out here, I knew, and, like, here it is, these COVID and I have these beautiful people in my network that are absolutely incredible. You know, I’ve met some and creative and peers, clients, friends, stories, I know, like I got to so
Nestor Aparicio 26:54
i Three years into this, if I were to, like, give you the top three five things you’re doing, like, a little book or white paper on something that I’ll give you an example. So when I decided to lose weight back in 2006 I think we had something in common. My nickname in middle school was meatball, and then after that, it was Doughboy. Oh my goodness. Nice names, right? Dundalk in the 70s, right? I was missing a finger too. So Nestor, the longer Christmas, Don you know, we’ve all been picked on, right? So I decided to lose weight back in 2006 and the reason it happened and why, I had no peer pressure, although I did at one point have one friend who’s no longer friend in my life, but say to me, give me your driver’s license. And I pulled my driver’s license out, and he said, How much do you weigh? And I said, Well, I probably weigh like I said, I just got back from Brazil and Argentina, and I was drinking a lot of wine and eat a lot of red meat. And I said, I probably weigh 175 right now. And I got on the scale and I weighed 178 Wow. So wait, this is in, this is in the spring of 06 so it’s 18 years ago, and I handed him my driver’s license. And what is it? What did it say? Look at the weight. Look at the weight on there, 48 my weight has been 148, on my driver’s license since last century. You know? I mean, like since late, since probably 19, you know, whatever, 19, something, right? And he looked at me, and he literally, we’d had a couple of drinks. He’s like, he’ll never effing way that again. Good luck with that. Yeah. And I looked at him, and I’m like, Oh, we go talk to me. I and when it came time for me to lose weight, my wife became and this is a great shout out for Planet Fitness, my wife became obsessed with the Biggest Loser. And my wife has never been heavy. My wife was always like the little flat chested, skinny little girl. Her sister was always bigger. Sister still bigger, and she never had to lose weight or thought about she just was always kind of skinny, you know, and but she always watched The Biggest Loser, and she would watch it on a treadmill. And she’s watching these people like Lou, you know, the biggest loser lose a lot of weight. And I knew there are people. I knew one there, Scott Mitchell, the old quarterback in the Ravens. It was celebrity and all that. And every time I would watch a Celebrity Fit Club, or would watch any and we met Jillian Michaels, and like all that, they all had the same thing all the celebrity shows. It was like, breakfast, oatmeal, blueberries, breakfast, breakfast, breakfast. And I’m like, I don’t eat breakfast, and when I do, it’s eggs or, you know, whatever. And I’m like, All right, so start the day with the right food. That sounds like a good idea, if you want to, you know, you know, like you know, probably a good idea. So I started every day of my life, and I got a banana and fresh blueberries, and I have had fresh blueberries for breakfast, probably 90. 6% of the days when I’m not getting shrimp and grits at State Fair doing something silly on vacation, but I eat berries and oats for breakfast six and a half days a week and half for 18 years, and that was my little silly like, if I were to write a book on you lost weight or things that you do every day. It was so crazy. My employees that hated me, that was one of the weird things they made fun of me after when I fired them, was for eating cereal in meetings in the morning, like eating I was known for, like being this guy that always had strawberries and blueberries, and I’m 56 and I’ve kept my weight off for 18 years. If I were to, and I’m not gonna get naked right now, take my glasses and my shirt off and everything, but when I do weigh myself, yeah, right this minute,
Karen Falkler 30:51
pinching it, yeah,
Nestor Aparicio 30:53
I’m 151 right now, maybe 152 Oh, wow, I could get to 48 if I, you know, wouldn’t like wrestling, we have to spit in the cup and but I want to hear your three years into this, what’s something you tell every CEO. So if I were working for you and saying you got to fix your diet, I would say, look, find a way to eat oats, empowering fruit, blueberry super foods, antioxidants, do that for breakfast. And Baldinger was really on me about this. Baldi was a guy that got me doing, I’ll do it with his finger out. Baldy was the one in 1999 so you got to get into hot yoga. You got to do hot yoga. Baldy got after me about seven years ago. He’s selling some crap, and he’s like, nasty. 90% of population is dehydrated. Let me see your fingers. I mean your finger. You’re dehydrated. Look at your figure. You’re dehydrated. You gotta have you gotta have water. You gotta have so I am a cereal water drinker. I never drank water, right? I had a friend of mine who’s 60 years old, says I don’t like water. I’m like What do you like? Life your body’s made up in 98% of it. So I need to hear your thing that you have seen in every CEO, that you have to say to everyone, is it a mental issue, a physical issue? What is? What is the first book of Karen Fauci and Fauci leadership advisory for what you’re saying to people, what you’re seeing when you people. So
Karen Falkler 32:23
I would say, I mean, obviously everybody’s different. Everybody has different nutritional needs, time needs, you know, you know, any one of those categories, they all drink water. So some of them,
32:33
they should, I don’t
Karen Falkler 32:34
tell anybody what they should do. Really didn’t know.
Nestor Aparicio 32:39
I don’t be a good idea. Here’s a recommendation for you,
Karen Falkler 32:42
food for thought, something to consider I don’t offer. Medical coach
Nestor Aparicio 32:45
me you have your foot on my ass because I need it. Do I look like I need it? No, I need it. No, I died like I need if I’m coming to you to be led. It’s I don’t want you to not be nice to me, but I want you to be really, really really hold me accountable. Well, that
Karen Falkler 33:03
is part of it, is accountability. But like, I would say, so even in my even my first book, like it’s comically simple, like we are masters at over complicating everything. And so I would say that rules for myself, and I’m the first one to say, like, I’m human, like people don’t come to me because I know everything. They come to me because they know that I am genuinely safe and objective. There’s no good, bad, right, wrong. You know, anything goes as long as they’re
Nestor Aparicio 33:25
not. I think you use really healthy but I saw you eat french fries here, so I know you break
Karen Falkler 33:30
rules, but I would say that one of the biggest things is like prioritizing time for yourself, like almost every day starts with the most important meeting of the day, which is the meeting with yourself about who you are and what you’re doing, what you’re after that day. I call that
Nestor Aparicio 33:43
the strategy thing in the morning, yeah, and I love that under dim light, like I have some dim lights in the morning for my eyes to adjust. I have a shot sheet that I have one sheet of paper. I brought my pen. I have four color pens. You know, financial things are green, important things are red. Daily tasks are blue. Mundane stuffs black.
Karen Falkler 34:03
That’s very organized. I’m impressed. Well,
Nestor Aparicio 34:06
I mean, yeah, I run a business. I gotta be I don’t know if you know there’s, there’s just me, and that’s part of, like, we all feel that way, though, right? But if you’re not waking up in the morning with a plan, if you don’t, be
Karen Falkler 34:18
surprised how many people don’t have the plan, or they don’t stick to them. So, I mean, I
Nestor Aparicio 34:22
tried my wife, not because I’m like, Look, we need a family meeting about, what about the schedule? Because we have a car and we have a life, we have food. Now you want me to bring a crab cake? Going from green man like you have to have, well, that’s you have to have a family meeting. You have to have a strategy.
Karen Falkler 34:36
But sometimes we get so stuck in fight or flight mode, and go mode and do mode and take care of other people, mode that we forget to take care of ourselves. All right? So this is page, and so it’s like coming up out of the weeds. Is like, set a meeting with yourself. Focus on your sleep, because we don’t get enough of it. And again, that’s like neuro protective, remove inflammation, keep yourself and like that. Helps us to see clearly.
Nestor Aparicio 35:01
If I told you how much I sleep, you’d be mad at
Karen Falkler 35:03
me. Well, I again, I’m I don’t judge anyone, for everybody’s different, you know, but four to five hours a day, but how much of that is, like, good quality sleep, all of it, yeah? And so, like, I
Nestor Aparicio 35:14
sleep until, you know, I’m a 56 year old guy, so, you know, you’re young,
Karen Falkler 35:19
so you get up in the middle of night. I
Nestor Aparicio 35:22
gotta pee. Yeah, I mean, and we’ve already discussed, and I’m over hydrated, in a general sense, I’m over hydrating. A little coffee in the morning, and then I go water and yeah, you know, electrolytes. Yeah, I’m doing yoga in three hours, sweating my lunch with doobies off. I gotta be hydrated. And then I hydrate after Yeah. And then at two in the morning, I wake up, I pee. And, you know, my cat says to me, yeah, yeah. What that means? I’m hungry. So then I feed the cat, yeah, a pee. And I’m like, well, Karen, on the show today. What else I got going on? Yeah, you know, yeah. And then I start working, yeah. And next thing, you know, I’ve become a Napper. I took an itchy, bitsy little nap today, like an old man. I took it like a little 45 minute. I slept today from 9am to 9:45am. I woke up at 2am good for you. I wake up by four most mornings. Yeah,
Karen Falkler 36:12
yeah. I’m not surprised. Is that an achiever thing
Nestor Aparicio 36:15
in your mind? Getting up in the morning again?
Karen Falkler 36:17
Everybody’s different. Everybody has their like. Some people are morning people, some people are night people, some people need a lot of sleep. Some people need a couple hours.
Nestor Aparicio 36:25
You are like a priest or rabbi to me, so I would say to you, for me, the one way I know I’m getting enough sleep, and I always get enough sleep, is, do I look like I have enough energy for you for today to get through what I need to get through? Do I look like I’m not gonna make yoga tonight? Do I look like I’m not gonna make it good through Tim Watson, like I know I’m sleeping well enough because I don’t. I don’t need a Snickers in the middle of the day, right? You know what I mean is like, I never feel that way without
Karen Falkler 36:53
the right amount of rest. And that might be like, actual sleep, rest, or just rest, like allowing yourself the permission to rest.
Nestor Aparicio 37:02
I think the yoga thing, and I haven’t done a lot of studying on it, but I’ve been doing it for 25 years. There is a part in yoga where you do shavasana at the end, yeah, and you get that little couple of minutes and all that’s usually just the most important part of the class. This is where all that goodness settles in, and you’re laying there in a pile of sweat. My hair is all over the place and hoping nobody’s looking at my makeup. And that couple of minutes of like, you know, there’s nothing like that in the world, and I can’t imagine having two kids running around bosses, wise people, employees don’t like you, customers that are mad at like, all the things that go on in the world. If you don’t have that, you know, if you don’t have a place for that, you’re you’re missing out. You’re not really living you’re not living fully. We
Karen Falkler 37:48
need rest, work and play as humans to be like, really, really well done. I’m
Nestor Aparicio 37:56
making up all the work and the rest I’m getting for all the plane I did earlier. I had so much fun when I was younger. We saw the documentary care, Fauci. Fauci. Am I saying it right? Leadership advisory? Is that advisory? Yeah, say that right off what I saw on Facebook. Yeah. As long
Karen Falkler 38:13
as they spell my last name right, though, they’ll probably find me, F, A, l, K, L, E, R,
Nestor Aparicio 38:17
all right. So before you get to the documentary, because I want you to promote that because, I mean, we’ve been friends for a couple of years. A couple of years. I made you watch it. He didn’t make never would have watched it had we not done the show today. But I’m like, Look, watch it so you at least have a real sense of what I do, that I’m not just a really sexy guy with the long hair who’s not like anybody else in any of the networking things that you just know is being the wacky radio guy, right? And I And the funniest thing for you is you’re like, I never knew why you were nasty Nestor. That was, I don’t even know you knew I was nasty Nestor. I’ve only known you five years. Did I introduce myself to you? But people come up to me and they call me nasty. And you’re probably wondering why?
Karen Falkler 38:58
Well, and it’s like, again, like, I didn’t, like, I’m new to and you’re not a sports fan community, you know, like, I’m a three year old infant, essentially, in this, this business community. And so yeah, like, you hear this, and you meet and like, you know, we’ve talked about, like, you’re an authentic person. You’re not afraid of telling the truth, you’re not afraid of being you. And so it was just like, Okay, well, this guy is, like, not afraid to have tough conversations. And so, like, did he have one? And the name stuck, but to hear that, that was like, goes all the way back to these
Nestor Aparicio 39:25
little kids. They’re not when they’re 42 years old, with twins living in Brooklyn. But he was just, and he still call me nasty, nasty, yeah,
Karen Falkler 39:34
well, I mean them and a lot of other people, apparently. But it was just, it’s, that’s the thing that I love about humans is like we are endlessly fascinating creatures with these stories about, you know, what makes us who we are and do the things that we do
Nestor Aparicio 39:49
and why? Just wanted to tell it for people. I’m 56 years old. I mean, yeah, I’ll be 57 so I know there are people like you. I. I met you in the back seat of an Uber in Ocean City, Maryland, with all of these networking people going from one place to another. And I look up and I’m like, Who’s she? That
Karen Falkler 40:12
was the first time I’d ever been bar hopping, by the way,
Nestor Aparicio 40:14
that’s Karen, like, and I’m like, Who are you? And you’re like, Oh, I do leadership and executive coaching, and I’m like, you don’t want to coach me. I’m a mess. Really. I’m a full time job. What
Karen Falkler 40:27
I really am is, you know, this little Carroll County girl grew up in the country. You know, you need a cup of sugar, you need a stick of butter. Yes, I
Nestor Aparicio 40:34
use Did you grow up in Hampstead? I
Karen Falkler 40:36
grew up in Eldersburg, Eldersburg Liberty High School. Yeah. But I just love people and I want them to live. And I was like, look like this crazy soup that we call life makes us who we are and do what we love like you love what you do. Like now I like I will do what I do every day for the rest of my life. You
Nestor Aparicio 40:51
found your thing. This is my you never go back to pt, no, even if my back hurts.
Karen Falkler 40:56
Well, I mean, I’m gonna get to me to say, like, Hey, here’s some things that you can try, because that’s just it is like there are these, like, super simple things that people don’t know about, like the marathon muscles and sprint muscles in our body, and how our alignment and breathing has a profound impact on how and like, where we live in age and Tony
Nestor Aparicio 41:17
Robbins always said that about breath, and I didn’t understand that until I did yoga, yeah, yeah, because I there’s a dude in our yoga class, and he’s a listener. If you’re listening, you know, I respect you. He holds his breath in yoga, and I’m like, the first rule is you have to breathe. Follows the rules, but, but if you don’t you’re gonna pass out. Are you gonna make me pass out listening to you go.
Karen Falkler 41:44
But why are you listening to him instead of tuning into your own body, other
Nestor Aparicio 41:48
people in class like that. You gotta breathe, breathe in. Gotta
Karen Falkler 41:52
work on your meditation. Breathing to consider breathe out,
Nestor Aparicio 41:59
breathe in, breathe out. It’s power breath.
Karen Falkler 42:01
I know sometimes when I’m sitting in the sauna up here, there are people that come in and they breathe really loud. In this one, I’m like, Can you breathe a little bit more quietly? And it’s
Nestor Aparicio 42:09
like loud showers. Oh, my God, all right. So what do you got to say about my documentary? Because you watched it, and I really listen if I didn’t, if I if I were gonna hire a priest, Rabbi, Fauci, leadership, what give me the FD, the FT, in the T, what are they again? The
Karen Falkler 42:27
four things. PM, CT. PM,
Nestor Aparicio 42:30
go ahead with it. P,
Karen Falkler 42:32
P for physical, M for mental, C for communication, T for time.
Nestor Aparicio 42:38
I would waste your time. I would over communicate. You think I’m nuts some of the times, man, maybe not. I’m and the physical part I’m good with, I’m gonna breathe, I’m gonna drink water, I’m gonna get my right rat, you don’t need to coach me on that. I’m kind of cool on that, like I’m self motivated in that way. But the part where you communicate with other people, and the part where you have your head together all the time, that encouragement or that validation that you know you look for, that’s where you would come in for coach, for me,
Karen Falkler 43:14
yeah, well, I mean, it’s different forever and it and it changes, you know, for day to day, Like, really, it’s just like people need a truly safe space. Everybody does. I genuinely believe that. And so it’s, you know,
Nestor Aparicio 43:27
alright, so my documentary, if I came to you, what would you now that you know a little bit more about me? Where would you start with me? Besides the mental health, which is always a challenge, you know,
Karen Falkler 43:39
like, it’s just, it’s just different, you know, like, because every time you would come in, like, things happen, and it’s just like, well, what’s, what’s going on today? Like, you know, I have some executives who just, like, literally, it’s just like, what’s, you know, what’s happening today? Where are we going? You know, we working on, what’s the plan, you know? But then there’s like, the leadership program that we do, and then sometimes it’s just like, I don’t know. Like, what problems do you want to solve today? What do you need to get? All right? So
Nestor Aparicio 44:03
I’m gonna, I’m gonna pretend that that we’re having a real counseling session right now, and this is what I would say. It’s like the Ravens offense. Okay, I am my worst, own worst enemy. Okay, because the world is full of infinite possibilities out there, and I only have my 18 or 19 hours a day, which is a couple more hours than most people have, yeah, a day of energy to do this. And there are days yesterday being one of them. My wife’s, because we’re going to the holidays, I got all this music classic going. I’m doing a lot of selling right now. My wife said, How’s your morning? And I’m like, Yeah, you know, I give myself a seven. I mean, I was kind of productive, but then I jerked off a little bit on Facebook and this and that, and I did this that wasn’t focused exactly on what I would so I’m kind of hard on myself a little bit in segments. The one thing that I have started. Doing this is a good leadership thing, because I keep reading it is, instead of multitasking, really bear down for like 45 minutes or an hour. So what I’ve really been trying to do at like five in the morning is saying, Okay, I’m gonna get this thing done right now. And if it takes me 30 minutes or an hour, and 30 minutes. I’m not stopping until this thing’s done. So I can scratch it off my list. So I become very because I have so many things going on, and if I focus on all of them, oh yeah, my mental health goes to right like, I get overwhelmed. I don’t know where to start. The end of the day comes at six o’clock. My wife’s like, so how did you do? And I looked down on my list, I’m like, well, didn’t do that, didn’t do that, didn’t do that. I’ll do that tomorrow. That felt really like a lot to do, and I couldn’t start that, so I couldn’t finish it, therefore I didn’t start it. That’s a real problem when you have that, when the task feels so big that you can’t, yeah, it’s an elephant, and you can’t bite the toenail, you know, like at all. So really, that part where you say, This is what I can get done today. This is what’s capable and then getting it done. And that’s my 2% stack every day, yeah, because I can’t get 100% on today. Get 100% done if I say, by next spring, can I have that new app rolled out? Can I have the new sponsor for the new app? Is Karen gonna be my managerial advisor by then? Can I get her onto the payroll? So I’m trying to think of all of the things that happen, but the biggest thing is making a list first thing in the morning and then saying, What’s the most important thing and what’s the thing that I can at least make progress on not finish, because that’s always the hardest part. Seeing the end of a project and realizing, oh, man, that’s gonna take, like, a lifetime.
Karen Falkler 46:55
You missed a stat. How
Nestor Aparicio 46:56
do I even start?
Karen Falkler 46:57
I think really, the other thing that we really need to incorporate. Here is the why, you know, so like, when I think about your documentary and you know the journey that you’ve been on, and in terms of just like strategically, like what you’re doing to maximize this time that you have in the present as well as the rest of your life, it’s okay. Well, here’s who I am, here’s what I’ve been this is what I want my legacy to be, and in that way your moves in every day, you know, day by day, week by week, month by
Nestor Aparicio 47:31
this is my real honest to God. Tony Robbins, is this your? Why are you this is this is my honest to God. Tim Watts is here. He worked for me back when I was young. I was terrible boss. We’ll talk about that later. So what does that say? Find
Karen Falkler 47:46
my why. So, found your why, my
Nestor Aparicio 47:50
why. So there’s there’s my chart right there. I’m not gonna let you read it off. The purpose of my life is to be the best version of myself. Enjoy all of the passion, joy and energy of life’s journey, and do everything possible to give and receive love, gratitude and peace to the world, for myself and others and so like when shake it off, every defeat is an opportunity to grow and learn. There’s never failure. Every day is another chance to redeem and prove and correct. There is no shame, false evidence appearing real, fear, F, E, A, R, that’s like, f you everything and run. No, you don’t know about that 1f.
Karen Falkler 48:30
E, A, face, everything and rise, or everything run. Oh, yeah, no,
Nestor Aparicio 48:35
that’s the opposite. There you go. There’s always hope. Because I’m alive. Don’t feel hopeless, despair. No situation is final, except Chad steals press pass, just a road to a better place. Anger is short and temporary, yeah,
Karen Falkler 48:50
and so like, when you’re like, This is my, my core values, this is what I want, then it’s like, your your actions are much more goal oriented, and that’s not as overwhelming, because you’re like, this single first step, this elephant’s toenail. See,
Nestor Aparicio 49:07
if you look on here, you’ll see my chart that I cross out the 2021 to 22 to 23 and I’ve taken, like, a little sheet of paper, yeah, that I put on, and I do this at Christmas every year. Yeah, it’s my Tony Robbins commitment. I
Karen Falkler 49:21
love it, yeah. Like, that’s like, one of the things my clients have is, like, a 10 minute strategic plan, like, what about personal? What about professional? What was your win? What was, you know, something that you want to do better or different? You know? What are the promises that you’re making to yourself? What are the promises that maybe you didn’t keep this year, you know? And what do you want it to look and feel like,
Nestor Aparicio 49:38
see, I just put the cook in the kitchen with you. You don’t know it. I just had you giving the advice that you give in your real life. So I’ve, I’ve done my thing. Kara Fauci was here. She’s trying to fix me. I’m
Karen Falkler 49:50
not trying to fix anybody. I’m just trying to I
Nestor Aparicio 49:52
don’t have enough money to pay you, and you don’t have enough time you wait the one of the four was a t time. You don’t have enough time to fix me. Yeah,
Karen Falkler 50:00
no, I’m not here to fix people. I’m here to support them so that they’re not alone. Because, like, that is, like, I don’t know a single leader who’s not already strong. I’m
Nestor Aparicio 50:10
having a fried crab cake, a green mouth. They’re so good. Our work is done here. Yeah, it was fun. It was somebody had to find you other than through me, so
Karen Falkler 50:20
you can find me on LinkedIn. That’s probably where I’m the most active. Is on LinkedIn. But I also have a website, www, dot Faulkner, F, A, l, K, L, E, R, advisory.com, and then I’m also on Instagram, if you just want to know more about my like, that’s like, been my, my journal these last few years of my workout posts, and just, that’s just kind of who I am. You
Nestor Aparicio 50:41
are, a little video snippet, inspirational person. That’s what you do. That’s your little thing. Like, I watch them sometimes, not all the time, but I see, you know, see your pretty face pop up, like, all right, what’d she lecture me about today that I need to learn about? I don’t know. No, you give wisdom. You try to provide wisdom. I just play
Karen Falkler 50:59
and, you know, like, I love reading, like the Stoics and like philosophy and like, I get up and I read poetry and Walden and different things. I’ve
Nestor Aparicio 51:08
been putting some of that up lately. Yeah, I just enjoy it. Like, there’s so much good stuff. Ever since Trump got elected again, I threw everybody off my Facebook page. Only thing that pops up are these inspirational
Karen Falkler 51:16
things. Oh, yeah, well, I do like the inspiration. But I’ll tell you this too, is like, in the age of information overload, information gluttony, technology. Like I am a huge fan of paper and pen and writing things down and journaling and so like
Nestor Aparicio 51:29
a wise man proportions his belief to the evidence. History is the first chapter in the Book of Wisdom. So I’m just going, that’s Thomas Jefferson. I’m just going through these. So, yeah, I’ve been pulling them lately too. We’re all trying to get up earlier in the morning and get more done, and I appreciate you coming out. Karen Faulkner is a Hampstead resident. We’re here at beautiful green mount station. All the brought to you. Bye, friends at the Maryland lottery, I have lucky 11. Karen has lucky 10. Turn it up to 11. It is music classic week here through the holidays and thanksgiving. Last question before I let you go, and I probably should get the menu here, because they used to have a menu here with these really funny descriptions of desserts a lusciously velvet cloud. So yeah, I read those. It’s always funny to read it here. It’s it’s Thanksgiving, pumpkin, sweet potato, Apple, mince meat. Where you go? Which one you only get one, one? Pie,
Karen Falkler 52:25
probably pumpkin. Pumpkin whipped
Nestor Aparicio 52:29
cream or ice cream, whipped cream, whipped cream.
Karen Falkler 52:32
But if it was Apple, it would be ice cream. Okay,
Nestor Aparicio 52:35
so I’m gonna give you a tip, and this is for everybody after the listening audience, because you know, wise markets is my sponsor. They’ve been with me a number of years. I hope they remain with me. Love you guys. They have an ice cream factory up at Sunbury, Pennsylvania, and I went up to the factory the best ice cream, right? Okay, so you’re already there 100% so I went up to the ice cream factory and I ate it soft off the line when it came through, and I did the whole thing. And one of their district managers said to me, like, three years ago, this time of the year, I was in the store. They recognized me. They’re talking to me. It was our sponsorship and this and that. And I said something about, like, the holidays and pie or whatever. And the guy says to me, Listen, I work for wise. You can just trust me, spend the $3 go down there right now and get the cinnamon ice cream. Now it doesn’t sound like sexy cinnamon ice cream. Who would want cinnamon ice cream? This girl cinnamon ice cream. If you go to wise and you get it for $3.19 or 299, if you wise rap or reward shopper, it goes with everything. So cinnamon ice cream, you buy it now. You’ve got it for pumpkin. You got it for Apple, you got it’ll work on mince meat, it’ll work what is meat? I don’t even know. Mince meat pie I’ve never had. So my mother and father were both born in 1919, so they were really old, like fruitcake, old, you know, my mother like fruitcake? Yeah. So mincemeat pie is an old recipe. It’s not made with meat, I think in in the old Gaelic English world, it was made with meat. That’s what’s called mince meat, the American version. It’s basically like a sassy raisin. You know what? I mean? It’s kind of like a spicy, fruity, let me, let me look up mincemeat pie and read, No. Have you ever had a shoe fly pie? That’s chocolatey, right? That’s a chocolate. Chocolate, like, with, with, like, oats and something like that.
Karen Falkler 54:31
No, no, no, no. It’s like, oh gosh, it’s own. It’s its own thing. Mincemeat
Nestor Aparicio 54:35
pie. Hold on. Mincemeat is a mixture of dried fruits, spices, sugar, nuts, distilled spirits. It says sometimes meat used as a filling for pies and pastries. British intelligence officers use operation mince meat to deceive the Germans about the Allied invasion of Sicily. Wow. So there. So there you go. So I. Said it was a glorified raisin, spicy fruit. Yeah, yeah,
Karen Falkler 55:03
pie. And I love mincemeat pie. Well, now I’ll have to try that. I
Nestor Aparicio 55:06
hate fruitcake, though. Don’t bring it such
Karen Falkler 55:08
a weird texture. It’s
55:09
gross. Yeah, I’m
Karen Falkler 55:12
with you. Honestly, eat a shoe, yeah? Unlike the ice cream, because I will say that their, their ice cream like I like their chocolate chip cookie dough is my favorite, and the vanilla is, like, super soft and creamy. I
Nestor Aparicio 55:21
am a vanilla bean person. I get the vanilla bean ice cream when I buy wise, it’s delicious. Get the cinnamon ice cream.
Karen Falkler 55:29
Thank you so much for having me. I’m
Nestor Aparicio 55:31
so thankful for Thanksgiving, listening. Thankful for my friends, my new friends,
Karen Falkler 55:35
friends, all right. Well, for everybody. Give me the four, Big Four again. Go ahead. Give
Nestor Aparicio 55:40
me the four the pmct,
Karen Falkler 55:40
yep, physical wellness affects your mental wellness. Mental affects. Physical these affect how you communicate and connect. So C and these three things, physical mental communication affect how you experience time. T is the last one. Well,
Nestor Aparicio 55:53
my back hurt. Time moves slow, trust me,
Karen Falkler 55:55
yeah, it changes. Everything about today, tomorrow, I
Nestor Aparicio 55:58
have begged Chris and David to come back up here. I’ve been up here in about a year to get this crab cake. You got embroiled because you’re all lady like and you know, watching your holiday figure. No, I wasn’t fried. Baby fried is the way to do it. I’m Nestor. We’re up here clean mount station. It’s all brought to you by friends at the Marilyn lottery and our friends at Jiffy Lube multi care. Thanks coming here. Appreciate you. Thanks for having me. Chair. Fauci. Fauci a leadership advisory finder on the internet. She’ll change your life and rock your world. Stay with us. You.
